Turning 21

January 27, 2017 3 Comments

I’m 21 today. I have lived on this earth for 21 years, and I am still as completely lost and confused as the day I entered. Over the past two years, I have felt as though my beliefs and core system have been smashed into smithereens. I am back at the starting point, trying to figure out life. I am using the last 21 years to help me get a head start and to try to build myself together with a lot of advice of what not to do. I have compiled a list of 21 things I have learnt in my 21 years.

  1. It’s OK to ask for help.
  2. The beliefs you have of yourself are what you will become, so, if you believe you are fat and ugly, that is what you will become. Even if you don’t truly believe something at the time, each morning talk to yourself in front of the mirror about the traits you want to see in yourself. I believe that this is the first step in getting closer to your goals.
  3. You can simultaneously love and improve yourself.
  4. Now and then, you need to let people in.
  5. Share your dreams loud and clear. In the past, I was terrified to share my dreams, in case they didn’t come true, but you never know who will hear them and help you along the way.
  6. Feminism rules.
  7. Feminism does not mean you hate men.
  8. Do something that scares you every day.
  9. I’m a by-product of other people’s flaws, and I thank them for that.
  10. Drip-dry clothes to save you ironing them.
  11. Don’t put foil in the microwave.
  12. Blenders and other equipment also release the same waves as microwaves.
  13. Listen to your body.
  14. Exercise helps everything.
  15. Stop complaining and do.
  16. You are no better or worse than anyone else.
  18. White chia seeds are a great egg replacement in baking, and more hidden than flaxseed.
  19. Stand up for what you believe in, but also listen to others people’s opinions.
  20. It’s OK to say no.
  21. You can’t please everyone. Make sure you are proud of yourself every night.

January 27, 2017



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    January 28, 2017

    Well Wittenham Elyssa…
    Good observations !! Actually, I might try to follow some of them !!
    PS. Have you thought of becoming a writer ?

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      January 28, 2017

      Thank you Maria for the kind words.
      It has crossed my mind. We will see what will happen.

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    January 28, 2017

    You have learnt so much in your 21 years. Take your own advice, and you will go far on this journey we call life.